Can resetting one's life be as easy as...1, 2, 3?

This past week I participated in Mel Robbins' Spring Reset training. I'd been wanting to find motivation and remember my "why" behind pursuing a helping career because I've been burned out for a couple of months now. I've also been on a deep dive into the personal development ocean which has been a fulfilling but tiresome process.

For those who haven't heard of Mel Robbins yet, she is the motivational speaker, life coach, author and lawyer who developed The 5 Second Rule (not the one referring to how long we *think* we can reasonably leave food on the floor before popping it into our mouths) and The High 5 Habit. I want to take the opportunity to share my reset experience in hopes of igniting that small fire within you to start moving towards the life you want. That's exactly what Mel did for me. The little fire was there, and without ever meeting me this woman took a can of hairspray and turned a lighter into a flamethrower. Before the Spring Reset, I was overwhelmed and tired. Now, it's safe to say I'm excited to spring forward (*ba dum tss*).

The purpose of this free online training was to provide participants an experience likely to excite and motivate them to launch the next chapter of their lives. It was broken into three chewable parts:

1. stopping for reflection

2. identifying small actions based on inspirational figures towards the life you want

3. obtaining the tools to change your behavior

Simple enough, right? Sure, so why don't we already do these things for ourselves? There's a reason life coaching is a rapidly growing field--we aren't meant to tackle life's challenges alone. Science has supported the notion that obtaining support and encouragement from others not only helps us actually do the damn thing, but being celebrated along the way accelerates the process, magnifies your learning, and makes all of it way more fun. I'm really fortunate that I know who my people are--my close friends, my family, my Lumia coaching cohort, my own wellness coach (hats off to you, Monica Timmons), and mentors I've gained throughout my life. These folks are my cheerleaders, my safety nets, and my sounding boards. Who would have known a wine night at The Quirk Hotel would turn into a mini business pursuit, "Coaches in Cars getting Coffee"? (Coming soonish to a podcasting and video streaming site near you.) We have to know who our people are if we don't want to attempt climbing Mt. Everest alone and without our boots. Otherwise, who will help you realize that you are not alone in your struggles, your mistakes, and your worries? You need and deserve support.

If you're stuck feeling like you don't know who is in your life community, think on these questions:

1. Who do you call in an emergency and trust to show up?

2. Who is the person in your life that you feel better after talking to?

3. Who are the people that come to mind when you think of someone having their shit together? In their health and wellness? In their career? In their relationships or the relationship they have with themselves?

4. Who did you keep up with during the COVID-19 shutdown?

5. Who do you look at and think, "this person knows how to have genuine fun"?

These are your people.

So why a full-on "reset"? Well, think about it. Whenever our phones, tablets or computers that we constantly use become overheated, freeze up, or even just slow down...what do we do? We turn them off. We give them a few seconds in silence. Then we power them back on again. 9 times out of 10, this works. The other time, the device usually just needed a little longer. Once it is up and running we don't look back and say "well resetting that was a waste of time" or "that wasn't worth it". We need to have the same practice with ourselves. There are times when life gets us overheated, when we are frozen in our anxiety or feeling totally stuck, or when we notice it is just taking us longer to get through the things we want and need to do. We are overwhelmed and we are tired. So let's attempt a self-reset. A pause. A stop.

Here are the big ticket questions of Mel's training to help you shift into a reset:

~How are you doing, for real?

~In what areas of your life do you need a reset?

Health & wellness, career & business, relationships (including the one with yourself) & love, fun & happiness...anything else?

~What's not working for you?

~What is working for you?

~How do you want to feel?

~What small actions can you take towards that feeling?

Think of someone who feels this way when it comes to their [health, wellness, sense of self, love, career, etc.]. What small actions or habits do you notice they pursue daily?

For example: They exercise for 30 minutes, they journal, they spend time with their friends or family, they have a morning routine, they work on their resume, they are kind to themselves, they spend time alone, they cook often, they spend time outside in nature, they're not constantly checking social media

~Think of a time you were really happy. What did your life look like? What small actions did you take every day? How can you implement these actions now?

~How can you make taking small actions easier?

For example, if you're looking to drink 64 oz of water a day, it can be super helpful to fill up a glass or bottle and leave it somewhere you are every morning (such as the kitchen counter or by your car keys) and drink it before going anywhere. Mel calls this the "make it easier" concept as this will remind you of the small action and encourage you to actually do it since the tools are already there.

Some of you are reading this and thinking, "Yes, this is the *chef's kiss* to my current issues. I'm gunna try it!". Others of you are feeling some resistance. Maybe you're questioning how you are actually going to accomplish a reset because finding motivation or being consistent with yourself hasn't been a successful endeavor before. Maybe taking the time for yourself to do this inner work isn't something you're used to because you have to constantly show up for others. Maybe you're totally comfortable with where you're at and don't think you need to pursue this...but if that were the case I don't think you would have read this far. And the truth of the matter is *clap* you *clap* are *clap* meant *clap* for *clap* more. Period. You are meant for more than just staying asleep, just denying your feelings, just zoning out on your phone or your tv, just not taking care of your body, just staying isolated, just staying buried in work, just settling for comfort, and just going through the motions of each day.

You are meant to live a big, beautiful life and you have all of the power in the universe to decide what you would love for that to look like and go get it! So give yourself this time for a deep breath, for a check in, for a reset.

Want to dive deeper? Head over to melrobbins.com/reset to download your free workbook and get started.